Love and Loss

Fourteen years ago, I decided to get a dog.  I drove with my sister and her kids to Pulaski to pick up a terrier mix who closely resembled Toto.  This pup’s mom and dad had gotten passionate through the fence that separated their living space, resulting in a litter of Silky Westie puppies.  There was but one left when we arrived, and he would come home with me after the sellers gave him a bubbly bath and blow dried his fur coat.  He snuggled on my lap the whole drive home, and I became a Mom to a wee little fur baby.  

I named him Oompa because I had recently watched CHARLIE AND THE CHOCOLATE FACTORY  with some friends (weird, I know.)  After my own kids were born, we started mostly calling him Bubba.  

Bubba loved to ride with the windows down in his younger days.  His paws would rest against the window frame while his scraggly hair blew in the breeze.  He loved miniature tennis balls; even invented his own game in which he would anchor the ball between both paws while he lay on the sofa.  Then he’d nudge the ball away with the tip of his nose and just as it was about to fall to the ground, he’d snag the ball mid-air with his teeth.  He would play round after round and then pant proudly.

Years ago, a friend and I took Bubba hiking up to the Cascades.  At the top, we took off his leash so he could explore.  Immediately, he found a book bag containing a Subway sandwich and began eating another hiker’s lunch.  I apologized profusely and then looked up to see him being held by complete strangers in a group photo by the falls.  

He loved a good adventure almost as much as he loved popcorn.  While we considered him mostly deaf the last few years, as soon as he heard the kernels pour into the pan on the stove top, he would emerge from his slumber and beg shamelessly.  This raised some questions for us – was he, like our children, really just encumbered by selective hearing loss?

We knew something was wrong last night when he didn’t even look up when Jamie laid a bit of popcorn beside him in his dog bed.  He hadn’t been himself for a few days and last night, he passed away at the age of 14.

Bubba was always quick to set out on his own adventure when the gate to our backyard was left wide open.  He would sniff and stroll and pee on everything in sight once he made it out of our yard.  Yesterday, we left gate open again.  We looked for him on our street for fifteen minutes before we discovered him still in the backyard. He seemed a bit confused as he lay in the dirt, hidden below a row of hydrangeas in full bloom.  It was getting difficult for him to find his way out of the open gate.  So another pathway opened for him, one each of us has never seen.  Bubba bravely found his way to his next big adventure.  There is no life without death and no death without life.  

This loss reminds me of how very little I know about the workings of the world.  My kids ask, “Where is Bubba?  Why is he not waking up?  Did he go to heaven?  Why did Bubba go?”  I offer the best answers I can, all the while acknowledging that I am certain about nothing that I say.  I am saddened to lose our precious pup.  I wonder if love and loss are permanently bound together.  Does the act of living tie us to these two opposing forces?  

We all want the happy ending.  We seek it out feverishly.  And maybe that is why I also feel hopeful.  Hopeful that Bubba is off on another adventure somewhere far and away, running with Bailey, our chocolate lab we lost a little over a year ago.  

Bubba and Bailey were the best of friends.  They loved to wrestle on the floor.  Her big paws would smack Bubba and he’d growl and nibble at her feet, all in play.  They worked as a team to knock over the trash can and then disperse its contents all across the kitchen floor.  They loved walks outside and often fell asleep side by side.  

I imagine their reunion was quite grand last night, and I hope that right now, they are snuggled up together recounting tales of all that’s happened in the short year they’ve been apart.

Love and loss.  
Life and death.  
The music we dance to, here on Earth.


4 thoughts on “Love and Loss

  1. Sara, I just returned from Marion and found your beautiful Blog. I want to cry, but you show your readers such HOPE, such wonderful belief in the reunion of Souls, something I hold dearly.

    I will print and edit in a few days, if that is all right. Somehow, I feel as though I would be trespassing on something very private and special right now. But I will go over with you because I want you to send this out for all to read.




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